TIPS

Walk out of your heartache, knowing that you have done all that you can do, said all that you can say, and given as much as you can give. If you feel you did your part as best you could, but he or she didn't meet you halfway, then you will not need to torture yourself with "what-ifs".

Do not put yourself through more pain than you have to. Do not think about where he or she would be right now, or if you should visit (you should not). Don't try to talk to him or her about the breakup. Don't make yourself think negatively about yourself or your judgment, or anything else that will make you doubt your decisions or yourself.

Remember that your ex may be trying to get over you, as well. Be sensitive to that, and keep your distance. If you've decided to stop seeing one another - stop.

Listen to music that matches your feelings it really helps try a sad song then a happy song and it will make you feel better

As trite as it may sound, this one bears repeating: find something constructive to do - something that will hold your attention and require you to focus and get interested. Once you've spent a few days (or weeks) indulging the grief, it's time to take a class or maybe join a book group. Find something that gets you out of the house and out of your circular thought process, and which involves your brain or your creative side. Sometimes you've forgotten who you were before you hooked up with the person you're so sad about now, and you need to wake yourself up a bit and remember that you used to have fun doing things you've forgotten about since then. You've got a brain, go use it for something besides re-running old memories!

Remember those old catch phrases: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", "Everything happens for a reason", "There are other fish in the sea" and likewise. When you go through a breakup or some other emotionally challenging time in your life, you're actually getting closer to finding true happiness because you are getting to know your true inner self. This may or may not include marriage or romantic relationships ... and that is okay, no matter what you do in life.
As simple as this sounds, be clear to yourself that you are actually breaking up. Too often the thoughts of possibly being back together gradually eats at you and destroys your emotional well being. Accept the truth of your situation, and commit to it.

If your ex has left you for another person then ask yourself: if s/he said s/he wanted you back, would you really want him or her? Will you ever trust him not to break your heart again? Will you be hurt, angry, distrustful when she is 10 minutes late calling you, wondering where she is, who she is with? Though you may believe that the answer to all your prayers would be a reconciliation with your ex, if it does happen, you may find that Mr. Spock from Star Trek was right when he said "You may find that having is not so pleasing a thing, after all, as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true."

Keep your dignity. Many times, it's our own ego that causes the pain; we feel rejected and deceived, embarrassed. We doubt our self worth and adequacy. A breakup, especially one in which your partner has cheated on you, can really undermine your self-confidence and shake your self-esteem to the core. Help rebuild your inner stability by impressing yourself with accomplishment - volunteer, take a class, do things that remind you of your value as a person.
Remember that this pain just has to be survived. It takes a season of time to heal, like a broken arm - there is no magical, instant cure or relief. You won't die from it, though you may feel like you will for a time. Endure. Eventually, though, you will feel better, the pain will lessen, and you will be able to love again.

It's a good time to try something new. Try a new hobby, a style, a sport. It'll keep you going and moving on.

If you find yourself compulsively checking your ex's myspace, Facebook, or any other social networking profile, help yourself out and use the Firefox extension, blocksite, which allows you to block the URL to that profile. Sometimes it also helps to take them off your 'Friends' list, or 'de-friend' them. Even if things ended on a clean slate, it can be too painful to see what the other person is up to.

Your partner has a right to choose to be or not to be with you. Respect the decision. If your partner digs at you again, do behave with dignity. Taking the high road may be hard now, but you'll be glad later that you didn't stoop to the gutter, even though you could have.
Every day make sure you smile. Smiling really helps, even at the worst time of your life. You can be whoever you want to be now, without thinking "will he/she mind if I do that?". Nothing is more important than you. Love yourself, love life, and make sure as soon as you wake up SMILE!